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Do you Home School? I offer Primary Tutoring 13.8.18

There are many families who have school refusing children either through ASC, ADHD and/or mental health problems.  As a primary teacher of 10 years and a parent of a child who had a difficult time in the education system I can fully appreciate these difficulties.

I can offer afternoon sessions a few times a week or weekly sessions to support confidence whilst in school.  If you need support with tutoring please call me to discuss your childrens needs. 

http://www.theguardian.com/education/2018/apr/11/parents-hit-out-at-plans-to-increase-oversight-of-home-education

Top Ten Tips for Loving Life 13.8.18

1 Live on purpose A sense of purpose brings the greatest of life satisfaction.  According to research people with a sense of purpose are happiest, they live longer and even make healthier life style choices (diet and exercise).  How do you find a sense of purpose?
Ask yourself: What do I care about?  What energises me?  What am I doing when I am happiest?
2 Plan for happy times  Don’t hope for a happy future – plan one!
Ask yourself:  Will this make me happy?  Going to yoga, visiting a friend will make us happy but we watch TV… plan and do it.  Choose what you do for the right reasons.
3  Stop comparing  We all do it.  The trick is to catch yourself doing it and remind yourself of what you are doing.  Do you post the least flattering photo of yourself on social media?  Tell a stranger how stressed you are?  You are presenting this to the world.
Ask yourself: Is that envy inducing friend who seems to have it all really that secure and happy?  He or she might have lots of worries you don’t even know about.
4  Count your blessings  Our outlook is what we see.  Our brains have a built in negative bias to spot potential threats.  It is to keep us alive not to make you happy.  We therefore need to consciously notice the positives.  I often tell clients to look for 5-10 positives everyday.
Ask yourself: Make a note of 5-10 things that went well that day.  What made you smile?  What did you achieve?  Read over these the next day and days when you feel low.
5  Wear your heart on your sleeve     Feeling upset about something your partner, boss or acquaintance has said?  You might think it better to keep quiet, not make a fuss but this can backfire.  Next time you are upset, let it all out – write a letter you never send and talk to them calmly when the anger has passed.
Ask yourself   Also, never suppress a generous impulse – tell someone something positive – tell them they are great, tell them now!
6 Ask for help   Are you the one who always does everything?  Most people don’t help out due to habit and ignorance – so tell them!  Ask yourself   
Rather than wearing them down with digs and reminders.  Set time aside for a bigger conversation and tell them why it matters to you and the advantages to them for helping.
7  Worry less  We have evolved to anticipate threats and because nowadays most of the threats we face are not life threatening – being on constant red alert isn’t helpful.  Constant worry can become toxic if left unchecked.  A distracting alarm in your head making it hard to focus on what you are doing and simply enjoy the moment.
Ask yourself   Worries are only useful if they alert you to potential hurdles – which you can plan for and act on.  If it is beyond that seek help.  If you worry about money then seek help from a financial adviser.
8  Get things in perspective The day from hell – train cancelled, late for work, forgotten train/bus pass, it starts to rain not dressed appropriately… We are all prone to a spot of drama!  Catastrophising leads to becoming stressed out with hormones that makes us feel like we are living in a war zone.
Ask yourself   The next time something goes wrong – try re-framing.  Remind yourself that missing the train is annoying but not the end of the world.  This will pass.
9  Be here now   Mindfulness.  Close your eyes to really taste your food.  Try using all the senses – grounding techniques.
Ask yourself  you are waiting for a bus rather than reach for your phone to kill time savour the moment and notice your surroundings.
10 Don’t take things too personally    If you are going to achieve anything in life you are going to achieve some critics along the way.   To avoid criticism – do nothing.  So roll with the punches and remember that you are going to pick up a few bruises when you are participating in life.
Ask yourself Do you want to love the live you life?  Then you need to live the life you love!

Social Anxiety 13.8.18

Social Anxiety is a common problem. 

Many of my clients suffer from this issue, here are three steps to find your social courage:

1  Challenge yourself and go to a social situation that triggers your social anxiety. 
Notice how you feel and hear your negative self talk of self-doubt. ‘What is everyone thinking about me here?’ ‘Do I belong?’ ‘Will anybody want to talk to me?’
Instead of trying to stop these thoughts, recognise them and be willing to temporarily accept and embrace that uncertainty and acknowledge that you are now aware these thoughts are unhelpful thinking.


2 When you are aware of a high level of social discomfort, try a mindful body scan.
Run your mind over your body, from your toes up. Notice how much resistance to anxiety you are experiencing by tightening, fidgeting, tensing and when you come to your thorax, you will problem notice you are holding your breath. Slowly noticing this let this negative energy go.


3 Don’t be afraid of rejection because it happens to everybody.
People are complex beings. Rejection is as much a part of human interaction as forming friendships. Sufferers of social anxiety tend to catastrophise rejection, fearing that if they start with a conversation with a new person they will receive dramatically abusive response. This is not logical and it is helpful to recognise that and to instead learn to accept rejection as something undesirable but not unbearable. 


If you recognise some of these examples and want some support. You can message me or speak to me about a one to one appointment on 07719 751138.

What happened to the Parents Peer Support Groups?

Parents Peer Support Groups

I have not completely stopped the Parents Peer Support Groups but I am looking for Schools and Children’s Centres to take up some dates from September onwards.

I am currently meeting with various Head Teachers, SENCo’s and Children Centre managers to come up with a schedule of events to relaunch the PPSG.

If you are interested in hosting one of these but want to know more:

  • I will provide a free 1 hour session on various topics from ASC, ADHD, emotional and behavioural challenges, Growth Mindset to Mental Health topics aimed at parents.
  • They take place preferably on a Wednesday morning from 9.30am – 11am but this is negotiable.
  • You will provide a room big enough for parents to sit in, with a power supply so I can plug in my laptop, projector and room for a pull up projector stand.

Previous hosts have after hosting these sessions asked me to run their own parental workshops specifically for their parents needs and INSETs for their teaching staff.

Parents have said how much they have enjoyed the sessions and that they have learned a lot from them.  Attached is a poster from June with the types of topics I can provide for your parents.

If you are interested please contact me so we can talk about dates and topics that might suit the parents in your school or Children’s Centre.

What is Bingley Business Social?

Why have I created it?

As a sole trader and owner director of a company I have been to lots of networking events and groups.  I found that I couldn’t find one that didn’t involve paying out quite a bit of money, meeting more often than I felt I needed to (or it clashed with clients and they come first!), I felt pressured to make referrals when they weren’t relevant, it was too exclusive (only women or only certain types of businesses which in fairness have their place), it didn’t feel relaxed enough to be able to comfortably chat or it was too far away.

Lots of us, as business owners can probably relate to those anxious feelings:

Did I say the right thing?

Did I talk too much or not enough?

Do they think I am an idiot?

Did they like me?

Do I fit with this group of people?

Will this work for my business?

Will anyone want to collaborate and work with me on some projects?

I couldn’t find a Bingley, Business Social so I though I shall create one.  It is exactly that, a social in Bingley, for businesses once a month.  It costs – nothing!  All I do is arrange the dates and times and all you have to do is turn up and network.  If this evolves into something more then that is fantastic!

I am very excited to launch the first Bingley Business Social on Thursday, 31st August 2017 at Martinez Wine Bar.  I do look forward to meeting many more Businesses from Bingley!

Tutoring… does it work? What is different about Spring Tutoring

Does Tutoring Work?

We are getting nearer to the end of the summer holidays and many parents are starting to think about children’s school uniforms, bags, pencil cases, PE kits, name labels and the like.  The practicalities of school might not be all that you are preparing your child for.  You might have had a report that concerned you at the end of the summer term.  You might have concerns about SAT’s this school year, you might be sending your child to a Grammar School and they need to practice for the entrance exams.  Whatever your concerns, they are generally about confidence and self esteem.  You are probably more concerned about that than academic achievement.  But did you know they tend to go hand in hand.  The worries, anxieties and lack of self confidence will hold back your child’s chances of success.

It is natural that we want our children to be confident, to have high self esteem and to be able to succeed at whatever they want to succeed at.  However children are just like us and have worries and anxieties about their own abilities in life.  No matter how small they might seem to us, they are not small to them and can often become bigger if they are not addressed.

Growth Mindset is important because it is a mindset that is in all successful people.  They don’t sweat the small stuff, they enjoy making mistakes because they understand that is part of learning, they don’t rush to complete tasks and they see the value of small achievements as a journey towards a bigger picture.  They see long terms aims as a valuable to their aspirations.

‘Students’ mindsets significantly impact their success in school. Years of mounting evidence shows that growth-minded students tend to have better academic outcomes than their fix-minded peers. In addition, they are more likely to be intrinsically motivated, enjoying learning for the pleasure of learning rather than just to reach an external goal.’  (https://rsi.gse.harvard.edu/research/growth-mindset)

I am currently running INSET’s in schools for teachers on this type of teaching and learning.  We all need to consider that  in order to achieve, we must believe that we can achieve.  That effort and hard work is part of success, but also we need to relax, we need to know that it is OK to make a mistake, that it is important to know we cannot do everything right first time and in fact we need to make mistakes to learn.  How can we improve if we never make a mistake?  Short answer is we don’t improve if we don’t make a mistake.  We need to have a culture of understanding that it is OK to acknowledge a mistake, to realise what it was, and to work out what we need to learn from that.  What challenges do we set ourselves to move on from that?

I offer tutoring to children with or without special needs because I believe children need to believe in themselves, in order to be successful academically.  Children with ASC are more susceptible to a fixed mindset and I often work with these children on Growth Mindset sessions but it isn’t just children on the Spectrum lots of us (adults and children) have fixed mindsets.  Studies have proved that having a Growth Mindset assists learners to achieve and builds resilience.  I teach children academic skills to develop their progress in certain areas but also combine my therapeutic knowledge, Growth Mindset theory and teaching and learning theories to support my pupils in breaking down their barriers to learning.

They are then making positive changes to become successful learners because they know they can.  It is not about being the clever person in the class; as one of my pupils said nearing the end of our sessions ‘I am just as clever as ‘name of high achiever’ now!’  He didn’t believe in the beginning that he could be, that he could get full marks in a Grammar test, but by changing his mindset, working hard, not getting upset or worried and putting effort in, he was able to achieve those tasks that were challenges to him.  He aced his Year 6 SATs, because he believed and therefore achieved!  He made positive changes and I was immensely proud of him.

‘In conclusion, the current study aims to investigate the possible mediating roles of resilience in the associations between growth mindset, psychological well-being, and school engagement. Resilience acts as a partial mediator between growth mindset, psychological well-being and school engagement, implying that resilience might be the key factor in reaching the objective of positive education, not only to enhance the well-being of students but also their academic achievement.’

(https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5147462/)

It is so rewarding to see my clients making positive changes to their thoughts and reactions to situations such as learning and achieving so much!  Contact me if you would like to book an appointment for a no commitment first session.

Walk and Talk with Sabrina from Brees Herbal Healing 11th August 2017

The Walk and Talk group on Friday 11th August 2017 had a special guest.  Sabrina from Brees Herbal Healings creates tinctures, ointments, creams and teas to help with all sorts of issues from low mood, skin problems, inflammation to urinary problems and the menopause.  She gave us some really useful information about the herbs we could find whilst we were out on our walk.

http://www.breesherbalhealings.com/index.html

Take a look at my Facebook page Spring Seba Thomson to watch the video!

Slået op af Spring Seba ThomsonOnsdag den 16. august 2017